The greatest fear!!!

The fear of rejection may have haunted each one of us at one time or
another, It may be caused by our fear of being and living alone, too
much dependence on other people's perception of us, lack of confidence
and inability to control our own life.
Fear of rejection is a state of mind that makes a person feel inadequate,
helpless and worthless. It inhibits a person from doing or saying things
because of the fear that other people might not accept him or
disapprove of his actions and words.
A person who is so concerned about what others may think of him could
make his own life miserable because he can no longer speak his own
mind nor do things that he would normally do on his own. The fear of
rejection can paralyze a person and discourage him from being
productive.
A person's uniqueness disappears the moment he puts primary
emphasis on what others want him to be. A person too caught up with
pleasing others will start to emulate other people from the way they
dress and the way they behave in society.
This usually happens to young people who crave attention and
acceptance but do not yet have enough basis for self acceptance. This
is detrimental to a person's growth because there is no more room for
self expression, only of self denial and the thought of pleasing others.
A person who fears being rejected can be characterized as:
1. A person who acts without confidence - A person who is not sure of
himself will tend to imitate others and keep himself from trying new
things. Such lack of confidence will ultimately make such person
unhappy and bitter.
2. Keeps opinion to himself - A person who is not vocal about his
perception of things may be having trouble with rejection. He may keep
from voicing out his opinion for fear of being criticized.
3. Usually depressed - A person who does not have the freedom to
speak for himself and to express his wants will soon become depressed
and will no longer have a love for life. He will tend to act like a remotecontrol
robot that can not make his own decisions.
4. Confused about his true identity- A person who has fears of being
rejected will end up confused about who he really is. This will lead to an
identity crisis and will make him angry at himself and at other people for
no reason at all.
5. Lack of self esteem and self worth-A person who gives more
importance to what others may think of him does not have much faith in
himself to start with. This lack of self esteem may have resulted from
feelings of rejection instilled in him by his family or friends.
A person who fears rejection will ultimately be rejected by the people he
wants to please and who love him dearly. A person who has the
tendency to please other people will soon get sucked into a difficult
cycle of rejection. His behavior will keep the people he cares about
alienated from him. He sees this as a rejection and then the cycle goes
on and on!!!